Inside the Mind of an Arae Woman: The Calling of Your Womb

Writer: Marlisha Wilbourn

SolarArae Womb Wellness

Nov 14,2025

3 min read

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What Comes to Mind When You Say “Pussy”?

When you hear the word “pussy,” what shows up for you? Not the polite reaction — the real one that lives under the surface. Whether you call her your pussy, punanni, yoni, coochie, or simply your vagina, there is always a feeling attached to her name. Sometimes it’s power. Sometimes it’s discomfort. Sometimes it’s numbness. No matter what it is, say the word out loud and feel what rises. Let the question sink into your body instead of your mind. Your answer often reveals how deeply — or how little — you’ve been connected to the place your womanhood

lives.

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Our Complicated Relationship With Our Wombs

For a lot of us, especially Black women, our relationship with our womb is layered in silence, confusion, or shame. We know she’s part of us, but we don’t always know how to honor her. We were never taught how to listen to what our womb is trying to tell us, or how to respect her as more than a body part. Society reduced her to sex, reproduction, or pain, but the truth is that she carries memory, emotional imprint, intuition, creation, and the core of our feminine identity. When we ignore her, we lose access to the internal wisdom she’s been holding this whole time.

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The Consequences of Disconnection

Disconnection from your womb shows up in ways most women don’t even recognize. It’s the ungrounded feeling you can’t explain. It’s losing yourself in intimacy that never nourished you. It’s second-guessing your worth, confusing attention with love, and choosing people who didn’t deserve your softness. Your womb has been speaking to you through sensations, emotions, and intuition, but when nobody teaches you how to understand that language, you end up disconnected from a part of yourself that has always been with you.

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How My Disconnection Became My Awakening

I neglected my vagina too. Not because I didn’t care, but because I didn’t know what she meant. I didn’t know she carried my pain. I didn’t know she remembered who touched her, who hurt her, who loved her, and who didn’t. Heartbreak taught me more about my womb than any adult ever did. Being exploited, choosing the wrong people, and trying to reclaim power through sex pushed me into a version of womanhood I didn’t recognize. I realized I had been giving myself to people who didn’t earn me and losing pieces of myself in the process. My awakening came when I finally admitted that I had no relationship with the most sacred part of my body.

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Growing Up Without Guidance

Like many Black women, I grew up in a home where sex wasn’t a conversation — it was a warning. Everything I was taught focused on avoiding pregnancy and avoiding disease, but nothing focused on emotional safety, energy protection, or the spiritual weight of intimacy. Nobody told me how to protect my heart or my spirit. Nobody taught me that my womb carried stories, trauma, intuition, and identity. We weren’t guided into womanhood — we were thrown into it. And we were expected to figure it out alone.

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The SolarArae Shift

My healing journey changed everything for me. It forced me to see my womb not as a burden, but as my compass. I started understanding my vagina as a space of creation, power, knowing, and truth. I realized she had been trying to guide me long before I knew how to listen. SolarArae was born from that shift — from a desire to give women the guidance I never had. A space where we can come back home to ourselves without shame, without fear, and without pretending we know things we were never taught. SolarArae is where we remember our light, our worth, and our womanhood. It’s where we reconnect with the womb in ways that feel gentle, honest, and deeply sacred.

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Your Invitation Into Yourself

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, your body, your femininity, or your intuition, this journey is calling you. If you’ve ever felt ungrounded, unseen, or unsure of the woman you’re becoming, this work is meant for you. Inside the Mind of an Arae Woman is a space where your womb is honored, where your truth is welcomed, and where your womanhood is treated like the divine force it is. This is your invitation to reconnect — not just with your vagina, but with the woman you are rising into.

With love, truth, and a whole lotta womanhood,

Marlisha

The Arae Woman Behind SolarARae